If you have been in a relationship for some time, you find things are not as hot as it used to be. You may have sex with your partner sometimes, but things have cooled down quite a bit. Most of the time, your requests are met with the dreaded excuse of “not tonight, I am tired, or I don’t feel well.” The problem is – while your lover can simply brush it off by going to sleep… you are wired differently! Science has proven that men are imaginative beings who need to be physically and visually satisfied… which means… Your urge will keep coming back until something is done about it. And just when you think at the end of a long day, you can come home and have your release, you are met with dies-interest.
Now, if your sexual urges are not satisfied in a healthy manner, they can keep recurring throughout the day distracting you and preventing you from concentrating on your job. So the problems begin. Now you may start to think, “what is wrong with me, am I so unattractive, does my partner have someone else”? You may even think about compensating these negative thoughts by getting into affairs and relationships you shouldn’t. More importantly, your attitude toward your partner starts to change, and since your lover no longer fulfills your needs for healthy sex… Then you disregard her emotional needs as well. This leads to a horrible downward spiral of more rejection, more frustration and can eventually destroy your self-esteem, relationship and life!
If you understand which emotional needs of your lover are not met, you can then take steps to correct them. You need to realize that her rejection doesn’t necessarily mean that she does not have an urge or desire, or doesn’t love you. When a woman loses interest in sex, it’s usually just a “symptom” of another problem that’s stemming from your relationship with her. I am not going to dismiss that fact that there may be times she is tired or possibly ill. That can certainly happen, but if you learn how to arouse her desire I am sure, she will engage herself in pleasure.
There are sexual cues or techniques that you can use to get her warmed up and sexually aroused. One cue that you may have over looked and think of as common, is too simply “show affection with your actions.” It may not sound like much to you, but let me say showing appreciation, making genuine gestures, showing that you care, will lay down the ground work, making her more sexually receptive to you. As you demonstrate your affection to your lover throughout the day she will be picking them up, feeling good about herself and you. And when you two are finally alone, she will be more amorous and ready for your love.
Of course, this is one of many cues that you can use, and don’t think that this emotional foreplay during the day is enough; you still have to work a bit harder to get her in the mood. Keep in mind that being thoughtful throughout the day will determine whether she will give it to BangYouLater Sex. Again, you may think its sound cliché but give it a go… How about flirting, remember that? Call her by her name and say it provocatively, sounding genuine and real. Get rid of the porn if it bothers her, and instead watch something erotic and sensual, that you both can enjoy. And while doing so, cuddle up close to her, caress her, play with her hair. Get the idea? I am sure before the end of the movie she will be aroused by your tender touch and attention. Oh yeah, do yourself a favor don’t fall asleep.!
Also please keep in mind, that being affectionate doesn’t always lead to sex. Don’t be predictable, because if a woman knows that the only reason you are being affectionate is because you want sex, forget it, she is not going to be in the mood. Instead mix things up a bit, go to bed give her a sensual massage, cuddle with her and kiss her goodnight. Sooner or later she will be the one to approach you!
Oh yes, don’t forget women love to be chase, yes we love to be pursued. May sound exhausting to you, but let me tell you; in the long run making her feel special is going to make things so much better.
Most importantly, don’t be selfish. Making love isn’t all about what you need. Think about it. If you just bang bang thank you mama, and it is over in a few minutes. Do you really think she will want to do that again? No sir, find out what she likes. Go ahead and ask her, if she shy tell her to show you with her hands and guide you through your love making. Foreplay is a must! It helps women get sexually aroused. Sometimes it takes women a little longer, so take your time, and find the right hot spots, and this will help her get stimulated! Every woman is different, it just takes a bit of understanding and patience, and if you really love and care about her and your relationship you will make the time to do this.
Use these techniques on your partner, you can change things around, and reignite your sex life. It all depend s on you; because your partner may not even know what to do either. Or maybe she feels embarrassed. So take action and enjoy a better relationship with your woman — she will love you more when you’re better at pleasing her. If you give your lover what she needs… She’ll gladly give you what you need, hot, passionate sex, night after night! If you please her, you too will be pleased and your love life will skyrocket!
